Being apart for the first time

   The struggles with my sisters and me trying to have a close relationship continue.  It is not easy to share our lives when we are no longer living in the same house or sharing the same classes. Since we are apart we learned to appreciate each other more. We may have even grown closer, but overall being apart for this long is hard on all of us. Growing up as a triplet in a small town forces you to depend on each other. We did not have a lot of friends and the friends we did have, we shared. In elementary school there were only two classes per grade; therefore, one of us were by ourselves and the other two shared all of their classes together. It was a small school and we had pretty much the same friends and teachers. When we went to high school, we gained a little independence, but our high school graduation class consisted of only seventy students. During high school, we discussed how we would be our own person in college; therefore, we agreed to all go to different schools. 

   Communication for us has changed since we went to three different colleges. We no longer could yell to each other in the other room.  It is not easy to keep our relationships going between my sisters and I. We try to take one day and night at a time. We try to talk everyday or night. This is usually done through email, text message, cell phone call or Skype. Our friends and college workloads are all different. One thing we always do every night is we say goodnight to each other through text messages. It is comforting to know we are there for each other.

   Once in while, if they are not that busy we will talk on the phone, but rarely. I like how even through we are apart we are all just a phone call away of each other. I call or text them if I am having a bad day and sometimes they will cheer me right up. Overall, no one said college would be easy, but I didn’t think college would be this hard on me. With the massive workload, missing my family and friends, and especially my better halves.  I am sure other multiples think and feel the same way about their other halves. If you’re a twin, triplet, quadruplets, etc… it doesn’t matter, I am sure they share the same emotions when they are apart from each other. It’s just the way of life of being multiples. We are fortunate to share such a special bond with another individual or individuals.  Even though separation is so painful. We have to roll with the punches. I have to keep in mind that I will see them soon, and or talk to them soon. When I think that way I don’t get depressed with myself because I know I am not at college for all my life and the separation is necessary for me to be independent. People say, “ If you can put your mind to it you can do it".  I believe I can do this and become successful in my life along side my sisters.



Triplets fighting for Independences

What is it like to be triplet and how do you get your independence if you are one? 

When we were born back in 1991, it was not common to see triplets, especially natural triplets.  Today, higher number births are more common. This is because many women take fertility drugs or have in-vitro fertilization. I am the fraternal sister and Lia and Marisa are identical. Being a triplet is an adventure. I have to say its never boring around us.  Someone is always laughing about something. Marissa and Lia, the twins, laugh about almost everything. Everyone in the family calls them laughing hyenas. Once they start laughing there is no return for them. 

I love being a triplet because there is always someone there for you when you need someone. I am never lonely or never bored. A single child or an only child must view life different then us. I love that aspect of being a triplet. We are just like any other siblings. We have are differences and our similarities; we just share the same birthday and the same age. Sometimes its hard because I know each of us wants to be are own person, but when people label you as the triplets then it’s a little harder to get away from that title. One reason it is difficult to be your own person is because when we were young we were never invited over friend’s houses. Parents thought that they needed to invite all or none of us. Sleeping over friend’s houses had the same result; therefore, we always had friends at our house, but all of my sisters were always there. To get away from each other was almost impossible. Our school did not have three classrooms, so we were together day and night.  

The quest to be independent is hard when you have been with your “triplets” all your life. Some people might think it’s easy to step away and be your own person, but not for multiplies. Multiplies share so much more then just the title of being a multiple. It's not that I want to be an only child it’s just harder being a multiple of a multiple. My sisters and I are all trying to let ourselves be independent, but we always find ourselves talking about how we are triplets. We chose four different Universities to attend. We knew it would force us to become independent. We realized that we not only missed home, but other half’s. Maybe being fully independent isn’t in our cards for our life, but if I was an only child I think it would be worse for me because I don’t know any other way of living without being a multiple. I love having two other sisters my age and sharing the same birthday, but sometimes it gets hard and you just need to know how to roll with the punches of being a multiple. Being a triplet is a gift of God, and I won't wish or dream of living any other way.

Challenges of a Triplet sisters

Sisters share a unique bond. They are blood relatives usually of different ages. They have the same parents, social status, upbringing and morals. Natural triplets are rare and they have a bond that is only one of its kind. They are sole mates. They are not only blood relatives, but share the same age and birthday. Many of their friends are common and classes in school are the same.


My blog will be about my sisters and me. I am a triplet. We are all girls. These two girls are so important to me on so many different levels. They are my life and I am blessed to have them as my sisters. You never know how much you miss someone or something until you have to spend time apart. College was the first time we have been apart. We are sisters so we will bud heads on some issues, but every night we know we are loved and we are always there for each other. We know we can count on each other, for we are family. We will always be sisters, triplets, best friends and someone you can share all of your thoughts and secrets with. This will never change as we grow. I know for certain that as we grow up or apart we still come back to each other, and have that strong bond between each of us.

The main question I will address on my blog is the effects triplet girls face when they are separated at college. I will discuss how it’s to be a triplet, and the quest to be independent. How I sometimes want to see if it would have been better or worse to be my own person, like a singleton. Now we are apart and the feelings each of us are dealing with. Discussion on the struggles on how we are trying to continue to have a close relationship with each other now that we are apart. I will also discuss the similar and different experiences we are facing. Relationships are forming on our own. The void I face since I am no longer getting my sisters feedback on my new friends. They were always so opinionated on who they liked and did not like. I will also discuss different ways we communicate and the pluses and negatives of each way and how as we grow up and apart how we could stay close with 3 different lives in the mix.