Communication between Triplets

Communication between triplet sisters varies among each other.  Each style has its positive and negative effects.  Our styles of communication allow us to grow up and sometimes apart, but we strive to stay close even with three different lives in the mix.

My sisters are my other halves; they are and always will be there for me. Being away from them is a new beginning. We never were away from each other for more then a couple of days. Now our lives are different and separate from each other. When you’re with someone for so long it becomes comfortable. Going to college for each for each us made us break from are comfort zone. This was more difficult on some of us then others.  My sister Marissa found it the easiest to break off then for Lia and I. This is because Marissa is a more outgoing person then Lia or me.  I sometimes wish I had that quality, but if I did then I wouldn’t be who I am today.  Lia on the other hand, was friendlier in high school then she is now.   College can be intimidating for some people. 

            Communicating to each other is a hard thing to do in college. My sisters and I all love talking on the phone, but most of our communication is through texting and email.  This is due to the fact that we all have different schedules, so our free time is not at the same time.  Most students in today’s society communicate with blackberries.  The feature is called blackberry messaging (BBM).  Going to college, we wanted to be able to talk all the time though something easier and faster then just texting back and forth. Lia find out about the blackberry and she wanted it because of the BBM feature on it. After a lot of discussion and persuading by all of us, my parents agreed and decided that maybe it would be a good idea for us when we went to college.  Now we convinced our parents to get our brother a blackberry also, therefore, we are now the “blackberry family”.

The ways we communicate are though texting, phone calls, and BBM. The positive sides of all of those are that we could talk for however long on the phone, text and BBM for long periods of time without incurring extra costs on our cell phone bills. The negative side is that the other person might not answer right away like we all hope. It’s frustrating sometimes waiting for the other person to answer or call back. As we grow up sometimes it seems like we are growing apart, but we always try to stay in touch as much as possible.  We visit and come together whenever we all have a chance.

When you’re a triplet you always have to think of two other people beside yourself.  For instance, when it’s our birthday it’s not just mine its Marissa and Lia’s too. So the little things like that matters. No one said life was easy, but no one also said that being a multiple would be this hard or so much fun.

Keeping our Relationship Growing

            As we continue days, weeks and months in our first year of college by ourselves; we are coming across similar and different experiences from each other in each school. Lia, Marissa, and I have all experienced and continue to experience the lack of friends, and the lack of things to do.  One difference we have encountered is how we feel about our individual schools.

We came from a really small town and a small school at that. In our high school we had a lot of friends and also enemies. Clicks were not common because the school was small that we all had to stick together. Also, most of the people we went to high school with we also went to grade school with them. Some of us stayed friends and others became enemies. My sisters and I are feeling that we don’t have a lot of friends at college. It’s hard to come to a school that no one knows you, and when your not use to clicks it’s a little harder too. In the small colleges that we each chose to go to clicks are present.  We keep seeing that the jocks, girls and guys, mostly stay with their sport. I just have to ask myself, “Why stay with your sport when there are so many other people you can meet?”

It’s also harder sometimes to make friends because my sisters and I always made friends together. They would voice their opinion on someone if they felt like they didn’t like them. Going to a school without them is a little harder because we want to make the right choice, but we are slowly realizing that each of us are not always going to be there to help us make our decisions. We have to try to make the right decisions on friends and we have to realize that we no longer need each other’s approval.     

            We are also realizing that there is not a lot to do around campus. Every weekend we see students go home and return that Sunday, but we wonder why they go home when their parents are paying for them to stay here. This results in the schools not having a lot for the students to do on weekends on campus because most of the other students go home. The students who chose to stay on campus suffer because there is nothing set up like big schools have. You can only do so much on the campus until you go mad. I am one of those people if I have been in one place for too long of a time I will go nuts and my whole mood changes. All of us would just like to see a little bit more activities conducted on campus on the weekends. Maybe if other students see that it’s fun to stay here; I believe a lot of them would start to stay on the weekends.

             There is one thing my one other sister and I don’t see eye to eye on, and that’s our schools.

 Marissa loves her school, and that’s good for her. She can see herself going to that school for all four

 years. Lia and I on the other hand cannot really see ourselves staying at the same school for our whole

 four years. Though, more then likely we will not transfer because we don’t want to deal with that hassle

of transferring and having to meet new friends.   We also have met a lot of great friends.  I think once we

 get older it will be different and we could go out on the town and have more fun. Overall, I love how

 Marissa loves her school so much, and I also love how Lia and I are so close.  It is wonderful that our

 schools are so close to each other and we can hangout anytime we are free. I love my sisters and always

 will.

Being apart for the first time

   The struggles with my sisters and me trying to have a close relationship continue.  It is not easy to share our lives when we are no longer living in the same house or sharing the same classes. Since we are apart we learned to appreciate each other more. We may have even grown closer, but overall being apart for this long is hard on all of us. Growing up as a triplet in a small town forces you to depend on each other. We did not have a lot of friends and the friends we did have, we shared. In elementary school there were only two classes per grade; therefore, one of us were by ourselves and the other two shared all of their classes together. It was a small school and we had pretty much the same friends and teachers. When we went to high school, we gained a little independence, but our high school graduation class consisted of only seventy students. During high school, we discussed how we would be our own person in college; therefore, we agreed to all go to different schools. 

   Communication for us has changed since we went to three different colleges. We no longer could yell to each other in the other room.  It is not easy to keep our relationships going between my sisters and I. We try to take one day and night at a time. We try to talk everyday or night. This is usually done through email, text message, cell phone call or Skype. Our friends and college workloads are all different. One thing we always do every night is we say goodnight to each other through text messages. It is comforting to know we are there for each other.

   Once in while, if they are not that busy we will talk on the phone, but rarely. I like how even through we are apart we are all just a phone call away of each other. I call or text them if I am having a bad day and sometimes they will cheer me right up. Overall, no one said college would be easy, but I didn’t think college would be this hard on me. With the massive workload, missing my family and friends, and especially my better halves.  I am sure other multiples think and feel the same way about their other halves. If you’re a twin, triplet, quadruplets, etc… it doesn’t matter, I am sure they share the same emotions when they are apart from each other. It’s just the way of life of being multiples. We are fortunate to share such a special bond with another individual or individuals.  Even though separation is so painful. We have to roll with the punches. I have to keep in mind that I will see them soon, and or talk to them soon. When I think that way I don’t get depressed with myself because I know I am not at college for all my life and the separation is necessary for me to be independent. People say, “ If you can put your mind to it you can do it".  I believe I can do this and become successful in my life along side my sisters.



Triplets fighting for Independences

What is it like to be triplet and how do you get your independence if you are one? 

When we were born back in 1991, it was not common to see triplets, especially natural triplets.  Today, higher number births are more common. This is because many women take fertility drugs or have in-vitro fertilization. I am the fraternal sister and Lia and Marisa are identical. Being a triplet is an adventure. I have to say its never boring around us.  Someone is always laughing about something. Marissa and Lia, the twins, laugh about almost everything. Everyone in the family calls them laughing hyenas. Once they start laughing there is no return for them. 

I love being a triplet because there is always someone there for you when you need someone. I am never lonely or never bored. A single child or an only child must view life different then us. I love that aspect of being a triplet. We are just like any other siblings. We have are differences and our similarities; we just share the same birthday and the same age. Sometimes its hard because I know each of us wants to be are own person, but when people label you as the triplets then it’s a little harder to get away from that title. One reason it is difficult to be your own person is because when we were young we were never invited over friend’s houses. Parents thought that they needed to invite all or none of us. Sleeping over friend’s houses had the same result; therefore, we always had friends at our house, but all of my sisters were always there. To get away from each other was almost impossible. Our school did not have three classrooms, so we were together day and night.  

The quest to be independent is hard when you have been with your “triplets” all your life. Some people might think it’s easy to step away and be your own person, but not for multiplies. Multiplies share so much more then just the title of being a multiple. It's not that I want to be an only child it’s just harder being a multiple of a multiple. My sisters and I are all trying to let ourselves be independent, but we always find ourselves talking about how we are triplets. We chose four different Universities to attend. We knew it would force us to become independent. We realized that we not only missed home, but other half’s. Maybe being fully independent isn’t in our cards for our life, but if I was an only child I think it would be worse for me because I don’t know any other way of living without being a multiple. I love having two other sisters my age and sharing the same birthday, but sometimes it gets hard and you just need to know how to roll with the punches of being a multiple. Being a triplet is a gift of God, and I won't wish or dream of living any other way.

Challenges of a Triplet sisters

Sisters share a unique bond. They are blood relatives usually of different ages. They have the same parents, social status, upbringing and morals. Natural triplets are rare and they have a bond that is only one of its kind. They are sole mates. They are not only blood relatives, but share the same age and birthday. Many of their friends are common and classes in school are the same.


My blog will be about my sisters and me. I am a triplet. We are all girls. These two girls are so important to me on so many different levels. They are my life and I am blessed to have them as my sisters. You never know how much you miss someone or something until you have to spend time apart. College was the first time we have been apart. We are sisters so we will bud heads on some issues, but every night we know we are loved and we are always there for each other. We know we can count on each other, for we are family. We will always be sisters, triplets, best friends and someone you can share all of your thoughts and secrets with. This will never change as we grow. I know for certain that as we grow up or apart we still come back to each other, and have that strong bond between each of us.

The main question I will address on my blog is the effects triplet girls face when they are separated at college. I will discuss how it’s to be a triplet, and the quest to be independent. How I sometimes want to see if it would have been better or worse to be my own person, like a singleton. Now we are apart and the feelings each of us are dealing with. Discussion on the struggles on how we are trying to continue to have a close relationship with each other now that we are apart. I will also discuss the similar and different experiences we are facing. Relationships are forming on our own. The void I face since I am no longer getting my sisters feedback on my new friends. They were always so opinionated on who they liked and did not like. I will also discuss different ways we communicate and the pluses and negatives of each way and how as we grow up and apart how we could stay close with 3 different lives in the mix.

My blog will be about me and sisters. How we are apart and try to have a close relationship with each other. How are experiences differ from each other, differ from the schools we go to, see how we can make are relationship better between us, and keep it that way.